When we are struggling, it’s easy to be jealous of other people. We think of all the things we have to deal with that they don’t, and we want to be them. But what we don’t realize is that there is no perfect person. No one is living a life without some sort of suffering. Everyone has something going on that they wish would disappear.
I know a lot of people who don’t have to take pills every day. I know a lot of people who rarely feel sick. I know a lot of people don’t have IBD and the toll that comes with it. But that doesn’t mean that my life is any harder than theirs. We all have hurdles to jump over. None of us have perfect lives, and none of us are perfect people.
We all deal with something.
Often times I hear people say “I wish I could be him. He’s so smart,” or, “I wish I was her. She’s so talented,” or, “I wish I was that person. They’re so good at sports.” But the thing is, if you were that person, you would have their strengths. But you would also have to jump over their hurdles. You would have to deal with their “something.”
When we look at other people, we don’t know how they feel, and we don’t know what they’re going through. And sometimes we forget that just like us, everyone else has obstacles in front of them too.
Everyone has something. Have I said that yet?
Whether it’s one thing, 5 things, or 87 things, we all deal with something we don’t want to deal with. Whether it’s physical or mental, we all experience pain. Whether they’re lifelong or temporary, we all face challenges.
Of course, life is different for all of us. There are people who deal with hundreds of annoying things all day, every day. And there are people that only deal with a few. But life is fair in the sense that no one is perfect.
So the next time you’re jealous of someone else or upset that they “have it easier” than you, stop. Stop thinking of all the ways that person’s life is “better” than yours. Stop thinking about how unfair it is that they don’t struggle your same struggle. Because that person has their own struggles to manage. Instead of wishing you were someone else, realize that we all have to jump over our own hurdles. You can’t become someone else. You can’t jump over someone else’s hurdles. But you can be empathetic and understanding of that person. If you can do that, you will make it much easier for them to jump over their hurdles.
So what’s my point here? All this talk about people and hurdles. Where’s the long jump?
Here’s what I want you to take away from this: no one is living a perfect life. No one is living without some kind of pain. We are all capable of great things, and we all have things that we aren’t so great at.
Yeah, life doesn’t treat us all fairly. But life is fair. Because everybody has something.